Overcoming LonelinessOvercoming
Loneliness
By Royane Real
Do
you often feel lonely? If you do, you may spend a lot of time wondering
what’s wrong with you.
It may seem as if everyone else but you has lots of
friends. It may seem like everyone else is always getting invited to go
to exciting parties. And it may seem like you’re the only one
who is left at home, waiting for the phone to ring, wondering why no
one ever calls you to invite you out.
Actually, loneliness is much more common than you
might think. There is actually an epidemic of loneliness in many
societies
today.
This may surprise you.
After all, so many millions of us in the modern
world are jammed close together in large teeming cities, and we have at
hand all the technological conveniences that are supposed to bring
people closer together, such as e-mail, telephones, faxes, and the
Internet.
Why are so many of us more lonely than ever?
The reason is that society has changed very rapidly
in the past two or three hundred years. Many of the social factors that
used to make it easy to make and keep friends for a lifetime have
disappeared.
Families have changed a lot in recent decades. A
hundred years ago, most families were very large, with many children,
aunts and uncles and cousins living close by. Family members often
worked together on the farm or in a family business all day long.
Today, families have shrunk in size, and family
members are now so busy with their own separate projects, they rarely
see each other. Families break up more often than they used to, and it
is now much more common for family members to move thousands of miles
away, to new jobs, new wives, or new husbands.
People used to live in the same small community for
their entire lives. They stayed in the same job for decades.
These factors made it easy to make friends and keep
friends.
Today, many people change jobs every few years, and
they move to new cities, and leave behind family members and friends.
And many people today are very, very busy. In many
ways, modern technology has not freed us from having to work harder. It
has actually had the opposite effect of making us work harder and
faster just to stay in the same place.
Another factor that contributes to increased
loneliness is modern entertainment and communication technology.
Before the advent of television and the Internet,
people had ways of having fun together every day. Many of these
primitive methods of having fun have almost disappeared in the modern
world.
In the old days, people used to actually talk to
each other! They would play games together. They would make music.
Now this sort of primitive entertainment only
occurs during a power outage. Most people now feel lost without a TV
set and computer. Even in the same family, people barely know each
other.
The increase in these modern forms of communication
have actually decreased other forms of human interaction.
As people spend more time on the Internet, or with
their text messaging, or playing games on computers, they are spending
far less time actually interacting with the people around them. It has
become a lot easier for people to cocoon themselves in their homes, and
never see anyone.
Many people are actually spending less time
developing their social skills while they may be vastly improving their
computer skills.
In the modern world it seems almost everyone is
pressed for time. We are often far too busy at work to develop
friendships, and when we come home exhausted at the end of the day, we
are too tired to make plans to socialize.
Loneliness is a bigger problem for more people
today than at any previous time in history. The truly ironic fact about
loneliness is that if you are lonely, you are not alone!
Still, even if you have been lonely in the past,
and even if you feel lonely today, it is possible to make new friends
in this modern world.
If you have been suffering from loneliness,
it’s time to stop blaming yourself, and it’s time
to stop blaming the rest of the world. It’s time to do
something to solve the problem of loneliness.
You can make new friends and have the social life
you dream of. To have more friends you will have to learn new
techniques of socializing and making conversation. You will have to
make the effort to meet many more new people.
If you learn the secrets of those people who make
friends easily, and implement these techniques into your life, you too
can have a happy social life.
Your loneliness will be a thing of the past!
About the Author: This article is written by Royane
Real, author of the new downloadable book "How You Can Have All the
Friends You Want – Your Complete Guide to Finding Friends,
Making Friends, and Keeping Friends" If you want to have more friends
in your life, get it today at
http://www.royanereal.com
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