Being Content--Even
when Life is Not Fair
by Nancy Twigg
4/09/2008 / Christian
Living
For
many years, I was able to think of contentment only in terms of
material possessions. During that time, if you asked me why people are
not content, my automatic answer was, "Because they want more and more
stuff without appreciating what they already have." Unfortunately, my
canned response didn't bring me much comfort as I worked through my own
issues with contentment.
I never struggled with wanting a larger home or fancier car
or designer
labels in my closet. My challenge was fretting over whether our lives
would work out the way I thought they should. My husband, Michael and I
both were raised with the belief that if you work hard and stay out of
trouble, you will get ahead in life. As good as this notion sounds,
unfortunately it has not always been our experience in real life.
When we left our jobs a decade ago to begin working for
ourselves, our
businesses grew slowly despite all our hard work. Michael studied for
years to get a PhD but has not able to consistently find work in his
area of specialization. We suffered several other setbacks beyond our
control. On many occasions, I complained to God, "Why is life so hard
sometimes?"
In the same way, your contentment issues may have nothing to
do with
material possessions but rather with circumstanceschallenging
situations in life that haven't improved despite your best efforts.
Although we hope and pray for healing from illnesses or resolution for
difficult conflicts, the reality is, these prayers are not always
answered as we hope. Contentment means running the race when things are
going welland continuing to run even when they are not.
Regardless of the source of your discontentment, understand
these three things:
1. Contentment is within your grasp. Be encouraged. You can
learn, as
Paul did, to be at peace with your circumstances. Forget how green the
grass appears somewhere else. By continually focusing on what is over
there, you are unable to see the blessings of what's right here in your
own backyard. In my quest for contentment, this meant I needed to
remind myself continually of the things that had gone right for us,
rather than focusing on the things that had gone wrong.
2. Contentment thieves should be arrested. Pesky thought
patterns rob
you of your contentment and peace of mind. These thoughts start so
innocently but can lead to major chaos. Something as harmless as
admiring a friend's marriage, job, or financial situation can easily
shift to comparing and finding inadequacy in your own marriage, work,
or finances. The habit of dwelling on what-ifs can be equally
dangerous. Lingering on what might have been only casts a dark shadow
over what is. The best way to deal with contentment thieves is to be
aggressive in squelching this form of mental static. Refuse to allow
your mind to wander down those paths. I've gone so far as to say an
authoritative "No!" out loud to remind myself that these thoughts are
not welcome.
3. Thankfulness can be cultivated. Contentment and thankfulness go hand
in hand. The more thankful a person is, the more content she's likely
to be. The less thankful a person is, the less content she's likely to
be. Even if your circumstances aren't what you would consider ideal,
choose to be thankful. And during the most trying times, you can
certainly find something to be thankful for, even if it's just the
knowledge that God is with you. You'll be amazed at how little you have
to complain about when you spend a majority of your time giving thanks.
Contentment grows as you nurture it with gratitude.
So how is your level of contentment these days? Has
discontentment
cluttered your heart and confused your mind? If so, it doesn't
have to
be that way. Become a student of contentment. Learn to be content on
the inside, no matter what's happening on the outside. Kiss the clutter
of discontentment good-bye so you can welcome the clarity of being at
peace with your circumstances.
[Excerpt taken from: From Clutter to Clarity: Simplifying
Life from the
Inside Out 2007 by Nancy Twigg, published by Standard Publishing
(www.standardpub.com). Used by permission.]
Nancy Twigg is an author and speaker who loves
inspiring women to
live more simply. To learn more about Nancy's speaking and writing
ministry, visit her online at www.keepitsimplesister.com
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